Things can never be the same after a notable few incidents in life, of which one is death/demise/expiry/Hindi 'mauth'/Tamil 'maranam' (i know i haven't included all the synonyms)- of near-dear ones. While coping up with the grief seems difficult initially, accepting the reality that the person can no longer be with us, talk to us, laugh along, share things etc etc takes time to sink in. Then comes the introspection part - may be this is a part of my learning curve..okay, now that he/she's departed, what should we do? a> praying for the soul(not for non-believers) b> analyzing the positive aspects of the person and trying to incorporate it c> if they'd left us with a task, fulfilling it d> cheering up others around (open-ended list)
Going thro' this post-death phase IS indeed an inevitable transition for all...
Dear Varsha,
ReplyDeleteYou have expressed in a general mode of expression,but im specific about my dearest father.. he was a strong believer of of religion and followed all religious functions with all possible means and particular in performing rituals and never miss to do that..eventhen he respected others feelings and didnt compel that on others..He was so committed to his responsibilities as a son, husband and father,. He suffered a lot physically but never burden others by showing negative expressions..He readily mingle with children thats why all his grand children love him a lot and his demise pains them..He had a very good impression about about my participation in trade union activities. spending time for reading to
Blind students..It was so encouraging and i miss him and his moral support.. 23rd Jan 2010 has gone along with my dear father..but the hopes he had lives with me for ever.
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i truly understand your feelings as a daughter. although i didn't have an opportunity to spend as much time as you did, he has left me with memories that i can relish forever...
ReplyDeleteThough its easy to ask somebody to come to terms with the happening sooner or later it is easier said than done. Especially, when it is somebody very close to your heart the memory will be perennial. The point is to accept that feeling and move forward. I am sure you are already on the track. I have never had the fortune to have been very close to a grand parent. We usually meet our grand parents when they are done with their "worldly" duties and they only have love to share. It is indeed a very fulfilling feeling to move with people amidst whom we feel secure as well as comfortable. I am really happy for you that you have had the opportunity to experience such a feeling. At the same time, I am really sorry for you that those feelings can now only be memories. If somebody could do something to cheer you up, my hand is up!! :)
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